Children of the Universe: The Role of Astrology in Parenting
We emerge form the womb, having traveled throughout many lifetimes, having experienced the existential bliss of the embryonic state, which serves as a transitional existence from the divine realm to this earthly plane.
We arrive in profound pain, for in being born, we suffer loss.
Birth is transition, a continuation of life.
We arrive with a story.
It is the universal experience.
When you gaze upon your child, do you ever wonder where his or her origins may lie? Do you ever consider how this precious entity happened upon your life? In the presence of your child, are you confronted with struggles and issues you have never known before? Have you ever felt that you and your child share a much greater story than the one in present time, that you have traversed together for lifetimes, alternating roles with each other? Have you ever contemplated the possibility that you and your child are here to assist each other?
If you have never considered these questions before, please consider this: The parent-child relationship is a decision that individual souls make before birth. Just imagine – Your child chose you, and you chose your child. These decisions were made on a soul level where there is no conscious recollection. The parent-child relationship is intricate and complex, providing us with challenging and necessary lessons for spiritual growth.
Perhaps what you learn together in this lifetime will have considerable evolutionary significance for each of your soul’s journeys.
The astrological chart beautifully illustrates the parent-child relationship. Each natal chart contains holographic legacies of relationship, thus revealing dynamic themes and patterns, both joyful and sorrowful, with the beings we have agreed to accompany. Within the horoscope, the circle of life, we reside within the other, and the other resides within us. We can know our children in this divine way, thus assisting them to develop their greatest potential.
The natal chart is a map of the soul, knowledge of which can enlighten and transform our lives. Attuning to your child’s unique energetic pattern and cosmic legacy can assist him or her as they journey through the labyrinth of life.
Parents can learn much about their parenting from the child’s perception. When we view and embrace the natal chart of the child, we embark upon sacred territory. We have before us the map of their very soul, containing their psychological make-up, character, emotional gifts and challenges, karma, dharma, soul wound, healing abilities and much more. This invaluable knowledge can assist the parent in their role as caretaker, mentor and teacher. Recognition of these multifaceted aspects of our children and ourselves can assist us in becoming conscious of our Divine Identity.
The counseling astrologer facilitates this process, assisting parents in gaining access to unconscious modes of behavior which may be interfering with the well being of their child, as well as helping parents recognize where they may be contributing significantly to their child’s growth and happiness.
Even without astrology, a parent who is striving toward consciousness is already deeply in touch with the intricacies and nuances of their child’s nature. Astrology is not intended to undermine or replace the intuitive function, but rather, exists as a rich symbolic language designed to assist us in accessing the hidden and arduous terrain of the psyche, allowing us passage to these inner dimensions, thus validating and illuminating our experience.
As an astrologer my vision is that, as we embark upon The Aquarian Age, we will more fully embrace astrological knowledge as a tool for assisting our children and generations to follow.
When a paradigm shift occurs, there is chaos. The heightening of individual consciousness is imperative for our survival as a human race and for the continuation of our beloved planet.
We are living in profoundly challenging times. Our children need us. We need our children. As a human race, our consciousness is shifting from an emphasis upon rationality to a retrieval of our inherently psychic abilities. The realm of the intuitive has been greatly diminished over the past 1500 years with the emergence of The Scientific Revolution and the Age of Technology. We are returning to magical mindfulness, intuitive thought and multi-dimensional existence. We are reclaiming the instinctive process.
It is our inexorable obligation to guide and assist children as we navigate this ominous territory, for they are indeed our hope for the future. The more we encourage them to resonate with their authenticity, the better equipped they will become in leading fulfilling, productive lives. The more we love them for who they truly are, unconditionally, the more they can love their selves, thus perpetuating love as we participate in collective transformation.
As a child, I experienced the multi-dimensionality of self and lived with a pure sensitivity that only a child can know. I sensed the beyond, participating in other dimensions. But it was not until my Saturn Return, a prolific cycle which occurs for everyone around the age of 28 years, that I became completely inspired by metaphysical, spiritual and deeply philosophical subjects, particularly astrology and tarot. Thus, I embarked upon a spiritual path, consciously and diligently, utilizing these sacred languages as tools for personal and spiritual unfoldment.
If someone would have told me 10 years ago that I would become a professional astrologer, I would have smiled and shrugged my shoulders.
I was devoted to music my entire life. As a piano teacher, I have accompanied hundreds of children through thousands of hours, teaching them the art of music. It was within this context that I embraced the sacredness of one to one relationships. I grew to understand that I was there to teach them much more than how to play the piano. My students, children and adults alike, began to open up to me. As they unraveled their stories, I embraced my unique position with reverence. I listened, counseled, loved and accepted.
As I began to digest the language of astrology, my interactions took on an even deeper significance. I began to look at their stars. I calculated the astrological charts of my students, and based upon what I saw, designed their curriculum and my manner of teaching to best meet their needs as unique individuals. I began to hear, “No one else understands me as you do.” This was perhaps the greatest lesson for me in realizing the uniqueness of all beings, and how knowledge of their soulful expression is of utmost importance in assisting them in life and learning.
Through these experiences I have become a professional counseling astrologer. Each and every day, I am thankful that I heard and embraced this calling, for one of the greatest gifts we can offer each other is the gift of recognition.
It is imperative that as parents, teachers and friends of children, we recognize that they too have their own journey, a destiny beyond anything we could possibly imagine. Our presence serves as guidance. We cannot determine the outcome. We can only embrace them and let them go.
As Kahlil Gibran has spoken most eloquently in The Prophet:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
Which you cannot visit,
Not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
And He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, So He loves also the bow that is stable.